Click Here To Read: Father’s Day 1994 by David James Fisher
Martin Milton Fisher, MD with his son David James Fisher
“Last Father’s Day” Dr. David James Fisher, Ph.D.
Jimmy Fisher returns. Dr. Fisher wrote the review of the Spielrein-Jung-Freud movie, which moved many readers.
Now, a riskier proposition, Dr. Fisher writes of his last visit to his father in a nursing home. It is an account with double vision: he looks at the surround — the lounge walls with original Picassos, Chagalls, Ertes and Judaica all bracketing the central spectacle of contorted mouths, protruding tongues, twisted bodies, wails and silence. And he looks within. He writes of life compressed, food pureed, time lost, a self extinguished, a father who struggles to implore, “Fix me.”
This is our rare opportunity and privilege to listen to a son grapple with his father’s death by piecemeal. He reminds us of Peter Blos Sr.’s last chapter in his last book, “Sons and Fathers”: Blos emphasized that we need come to terms with our love for the parent of the same gender in order to have sufficient ego ideal to imagine our continuing life and mourning theirs.
Nathan Szajnberg, MD, Managing Editor